Is
Depression Your Excuse?For
anyone who just can't seem to build-up the motivation or has put losing
weight off for some other excuse (depression, sadness, timing, etc...),
this just may be the most important article you ever
read.
In
today's post I'm going to share with you an interesting email that I
recently received.
I will confess up front that the
email came from a friend of mine, however completely unsolicited by
myself.
As a matter of fact, I had no
idea she even knew about the NLWF site. Which says two
things... #1: I need to do a better job promoting it. #2:
Some people may actually be reading these posts in their entirety!
(Surprising thought, I
know.)
And this did stroke my ego a bit since it was
one of the first posts I had made to this blog after taking a long,
several month break from it.
The email that she
wrote came in response to a post I had made some time
back with a bit of a weird title: "O Magazine, Dr. Phil And The Heart-Breaking
Story Of The Aging Elephant..."
Here's the
email and I post my reply after: (I have used fake names to protect the
identity of this person.)
Jason,
Loved
your article covering O Magazine & The Aging Elephant... Was
that article written entirely by you?! It's really good, you definitely
have a gift in expressing your thoughts/experiences, which by the
way... never knew you lost 30lbs!! (WOW! She must have
been drinking when she wrote this... My comments.)
Anyway...was
just reading over your material to see what it's all about.
My
younger sister, Amy has battled with her weight for quite some time now
and I think is reaching that breaking point of needing to do something.
BUT, my question is, is your 5 Step Formula going to address ways to
conquer the emotional part of being overweight? For example; the reason
I believe she's overweight is not just inefficient metabolism but
eating for comfort, suppressing depression, etc.
She
hasn't tried many different diets but was on a weight management
program for several weeks and eventually just tapered off. I realize
your weight-loss material is obviously not going to take a "counseling
approach," but just wondering if it provides tips for moving beyond the
mental state that overweight people may be battling....?
Hope you understand what I'm
getting at and wanted your honest opinion~
Thanks
Jason ;)
~Kim
The
"5 step formula" she is talking about is contained in my Natural
Approach to Explosive Weight Loss system.
Please
note up front... I am not a psychologist, medical professional or
should you take anything I say in this post as advice. She asked for my
"honest" opinion (I take offense, everything I write on this blog is my
honest opinion.)
I take full advantage of my right
to free speech
when I say... most psychologist couldn't find their way out of a paper
bag in the real world.
(I apologize if you happen to
be a psychologist. In your case their is an exception.)
I
believe that "change" can occur in an instant, but you must
CHOOSE it!
So here's my reply...
Hey Kim,WOW!
You must have found that article off of the
Naturally-Lose-Weight-Fast.com site.Just recently
been payin more attention to that site... as evidenced by the more
"Up-to-Date" blog posts.Appreciate the kind words.I
did write that article... actually checked the O-Magazine out after the
article caught my eye at the library. HA HA!Can't
take credit for commin up with the aging elephant story
though. It was a touching story that I read from a book by
Joe Sugarman (The "Blue-Blocker" sunglasses guy"). I just had to fit it
into one of my weight loss articles.Very
interesting question about the emotional part of obesity.I
do feel very strongly about the emotional side.And
honestly speaking, I can only do so much without actually working with
the individual "in person".My system takes more of
a motivational, simplistic, "Tell it like it is" tone - meaning that I
take a persons desire to lose weight and intensify it by getting them
to believe that they have finally found the TRUTH (and they have) and
that all they have to do is apply it and they will lose weight quickly
and easily. Basically as you read through the action
guide I
want you to be saying "hey... I really believe I can do this."And
let me re-iterate - the information contained in the system is the
TRUTH. It works, and it works very well... if consistently
applied. (Yes I did lose a lot of fat applying this material... I used
to weight 235!)Here's what I've found, if the
person has a deep down genuine desire to lose weight... I mean the
weight loss is a MUST... then this five step
system works
practically
100% of the time. Because these people will commit to
it. And when you commit to what works... it works!If
the person is unable to discipline themselves... meaning that they
allow emotions and old limiting patterns to get in the way... then it
probably won't work as well. (That used to be me)All
that being said, here's my honest feelings on... "the reason I believe
she's overweight is not just inefficient metabolism but eating for
comfort, suppressing depression, etc."Depression is
FOCUS.I can make myself feel depressed
in two
seconds by focusing on the wrong things. I can make myself
feel amazing in two seconds by focusing on the right things. (There
are some exceptions... but not many)She gets
depressed by focusing on the wrong things and then tries to suppress
the
depression with "comfort food".What if every time
she started to feel that depression coming on she suppressed it with a
more empowering alternative...? If she continued to do this she would
be able to lose weight and those depressed feeling would become less
and less.How do I believe you do it?With
pain and pleasure.Her pain/pleasure model is
reversed. She links more pain to changing her current eating
habits... then to the consequences of not changing them.This
will make it very hard to lose weight.What if
changing them meant sexy body, able to wear a bikini and getting all
the looks??? And not changing them meant FAT, can't fit into
my clothes and I'm only getting older and can't stand this any longer.She
must gain leverage on herself by making the consequences of "eating for
comfort" too PAINFUL to stand for any longer. And the extreme
pleasure of finally losing the weight impossible to live without.Remember,
these are just my thoughts here. Certainly not advice.Sincerely,Your
friend,Jason
So
there it was.
Chances are that a few of this blogs
many readers disagree with me. Such is life.
I
used to try and please everybody by walking on "eggshells".
No more.
The bottom line is that most
people use "emotional" things such as depression as an excuse not to
step-up and take control of their lives.
Until you
stop your excuses and get real... you will NEVER lose the weight...
period!
And if you think I'm mean, have no heart, am
flat out wrong, or have offended you... I respect that.
Chances are I'll do it again sometime down the road.
Yours
for amazing results,
~Jason
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